TRAUMA BONDING

When Energy Aligns: Exploring the Unseen Connections in Our Friendships

Energy aligned us. Pain introduced us. Love kept us. But the real bond wasn’t our pain—it was how we grew beyond it without ever using it against each other.

Do you ever stop and wonder why we behave the way we do in relationships and friendships? Have you noticed patterns in the kind of people you gravitate toward—or the ones who seem to gravitate toward you? Lately, I’ve been reflecting on this, and while my relationships now are filled with laughter, love, and mutual respect, something about them keeps me curious.

Here’s the thing: every single one of my closest friendships shares a common thread. We all, at one point, had complicated relationships with our parents—specifically, our mothers. Now, don’t get me wrong, some of those relationships have healed beautifully over time, and others may never fully mend. But when I think about the early days of these friendships, I realize that many of us were navigating similar struggles at the time we met.

What’s wild is that these bonds didn’t form because we openly shared our childhoods from the start. It wasn’t until years later—sometimes decades—that we began to share those deeply personal stories. It was like peeling back the layers of our lives, only to discover we’d been walking parallel paths all along.

So, I had to ask myself: was this a form of trauma bonding? Did we unconsciously find each other because of some invisible thread of shared pain?

The Beauty in Our Bond

Here’s the thing—none of my friendships have EVER been toxic. Quite the opposite. These are the people who fill my life with joy, honesty, and kindness. My friends are wildly different from one another, yet we connect in ways that feel almost unexplainable. I don’t believe in coincidences, so I know this alignment wasn’t random.

Energy is a powerful force. It connects us to people, places, and experiences, whether we’re aware of it or not. When I look back, I see that while we may not have recognized it at the time, we were all searching for something—love, understanding, and connection. And somehow, we found it in one another.

Was It Trauma Bonding?

Trauma bonding often gets a bad rap because it’s associated with toxic cycles, but I don’t think that’s the only way it manifests. Sometimes, shared pain creates a deeper understanding, a space where we don’t have to explain ourselves because the other person just gets it. There’s something comforting about being seen, even in the parts of yourself that you’re still healing.

With my friends, it feels like we unknowingly created a circle of healing. Our pasts might’ve been fractured, but together, we’ve built something solid, something whole. It’s ironic, isn’t it? That we, who may have felt unseen or misunderstood at times in our lives, found each other and created relationships filled with love and respect.

The Energy Connection

It wasn’t chance—it was energy—the kind you can’t see but can absolutely feel. There was an unspoken understanding even when we didn’t know each other’s stories. We were drawn together not by our wounds, but by the desire to rise above them.

What I’ve come to realize is this: energy doesn’t lie. When you put love, empathy, and kindness into the world, you attract people who reflect that back to you. And maybe, just maybe, our shared experiences were the universe’s way of giving us the kind of support and connection we needed.

Searching for Love, Finding Understanding

Looking back, it’s clear that we were all searching for love—not the romantic kind, but the kind of love that comes from being truly seen and understood. And we found it in each other. We might not have recognized it at the time, but those friendships became the balm for wounds we didn’t even know we were carrying.

So, was it trauma bonding? Maybe. Or maybe it was just life’s way of reminding us that even in our pain, we are never alone. Either way, I’m grateful for these friendships and the light they bring into my life.

All of those thoughts led me to this: maybe the most beautiful thing we can do is turn our pain into connection, our struggles into understanding, and our brokenness into something whole. Because when we do, we don’t just heal ourselves—we create a space where others can heal, too.

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Hold up, before you go…

There’s a storm brewing behind the scenes, a truth so raw and unfiltered it might just shake your core. Our upcoming 2nd issue of 2025 will drop the article you didn’t know you needed—but won’t be able to stop thinking about:

“Trauma bonding feels like love—until one of you heals and the glue turns to guilt.” 💔🔥

This isn’t just another read. It’s a soul-piercing wake-up call, the kind of truth that pulls no punches and leaves no wounds untouched. It’s unapologetic. It’s bold. It’s the kind of conversation you need—whether you’re stuck in the cycle or just breaking free. 💥🖤

The 1st issue is almost wrapped, but trust me when I say this:

Waiting for this article? It’ll be worth every second. ⏳🔥

I’ll be dropping a personal alert the moment it’s live. Until then, keep your heart open and your mind ready—because the Growing Vibrations truth train is pulling up soon, and it’s bringing the heat. 🚂🔥

Stay tuned. This is one journey you don’t want to miss. ✨💫